The realist's rules for not dating poisonous people.

I've been working on these rules for about 4 years now, and there's just about a different name to go with every rule, through my experience and others. I wanted to wait till I had a solid 10 before I shared them with people.

1. Don't fuck anyone over for someone who fucked you over.  

2. Someone who leaves someone else for you will leave you for someone else. Someone who cheats on someone with you will cheat on you.  

3. The people you have to convince to date you or who have to "come around" are not the people you want to date. (Because they don't really want to date you.)  

4. Never confuse pity, guilt, sympathy or compassion for someone actually caring about you as an individual person.

5. People who leave will leave again.  

6. Games are games, even if you can't tell what game someone is playing they will never stop, and once you realize they are playing games leaving is the only way to stop it.

7. People who don't know what they want are dangerous, and what they want isn't you.

8. If someone only cares about them self they are incapable of caring about you.

9. The only acceptable feelings someone can have for their ex is indifference or something like it. There is a thin line between love and hate and feelings that are too strong in either direction mean it's not over for that person.  

10. It is not your job to wait for someone to be ready or able to have a healthy relationship with you and they probably never will be.

The bottom line is people don't change, you can't change them, they won't change for you. If you feel like you should get away, you probably should. The emotional ups and downs you feel by dealing with these issues and sticking it out instead of running isn't love. And in case it wasn't implied enough by the other rules, the most important rule is:

11. YOU WILL NEVER "FIX" ANYONE. 

Seriously, date someone who doesn't break any of these rules. It's not like they don't exist and they're the type of person everyone deserves to have in their life. Stop chasing around poisonous people with your piss poor self esteem and find someone who appreciates you.

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